How To Decrease Intense Panic, Anxiety, & Anger

How To Decrease Intense Panic, Anxiety, & Anger

Lately I’ve been hearing many of my clients say that they know how to cope with emotions like anger and anxiety most of the time, but occasionally these feelings are so strong that they can’t think clearly enough to follow through on the things that usually work for them.  When anger, anxiety, and panic get too overwhelming, the part of our brain that problem solves and makes well informed choices doesn’t get as many of the resources it needs, making it harder to think clearly.  Instead, the emotional parts of the brain get those resources and we might start to feel physical signs of these emotions like, sweating, shallow breathing, crying, and nausea among other things.  We might even feel like we’re having a heart attack or dying.  When this happens, we sometimes get desperate to escape these unpleasant feelings and make choices that down the line can be dangerous or make our situation worse.  This is when we might self-harm, fight with someone we love, break things, or become aggressive.  When this happens, we have to find ways to trick our brain in to realizing that we’re safe so the intensity of these emotions decreases enough for us to think clearly and cope effectively.   The TIPP skill does this, and the best part about it is that it requires very little thinking and works super quickly. 

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Why It's STILL Ok To Not Be Ok

Why It's STILL Ok To Not Be Ok

Earlier this year, I wrote the below blog “Why It’s Ok To Not Be Ok”. Many states were shut down due to COVID, restaurants weren’t open, and everything was being cancelled. Life was hard back then, but it’s still hard now. I am sure many of you (me included!) were hoping we’d be “back to normal” by now, were hoping for a “normal” Thanksgiving, and are disappointed that we are not. We are in the holiday season, and many are unsure how to navigate keeping social distancing and mask wearing in mind. Infection rates are rising, and many fear another shut down.

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6 Ways to Cope When You Are Feeling Overwhelmed

6 Ways to Cope When You Are Feeling Overwhelmed

2020 has been a roller coast of a year for many, including myself!  It was the year of big plans, changes, and aspirations all squashed due to the pandemic, and the many challenges and alterations it brought to life.  The minute we seem to get answers or figure out a routine in this new normal, something changes, and we must pivot and draft a new plan of how to function in a new way of life.  Trying to manage within a pandemic can be very overwhelming.  On top of worrying about normal problems and life issues, there are now bigger matters at hand, most of which we do not have concrete answers to.  Not knowing or having a plan of action can cause us to feel emotionally overwhelmed and fear the worst.  These feelings are normal and can be addressed and worked on.  However sometimes they become overbearing, feeling like the weight of the world is on your shoulders.  Let’s discuss 6 ways to best move forward when those feelings begin to take over and it feels like you against the world with no end in sight. 

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EMDR 101

EMDR 101

By now you may have heard of a therapy technique called EMDR.  EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. The title sounds complex, but the explanation isn’t: simply put, basic eye movement can stimulate the brain and body to finish healing itself from traumatic memory. Discovered and honed in the late 80s by psychologist Francine Shapiro, the technique has been empirically tested, endorsed by the Department of Veteran Affairs, and even touted by a few celebrities who’ve been vocal about mental health. In this blog I’ll break down what each letter means and give a simple explanation of how each facet works.

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