How to Break the Cycle of Depression

How to Break the Cycle of Depression

Often my clients come to me because they are feeling depressed and hoping for a way to feel better.  They often say they’re feeling tired, unmotivated, and are struggling to enjoy things even if they had loved those things before.  They want their energy and their joy back but they just can’t figure out how to make it happen.  It’s difficult to problem solve and make changes if you don’t know what’s causing you to feel this way or how depression works.  One thing that can help in identifying the causes of depression, which ultimately is helpful for problem solving next steps to feeling better, is recognizing that depression maintains itself in a cycle. 

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How To Decrease Intense Panic, Anxiety, & Anger

How To Decrease Intense Panic, Anxiety, & Anger

Lately I’ve been hearing many of my clients say that they know how to cope with emotions like anger and anxiety most of the time, but occasionally these feelings are so strong that they can’t think clearly enough to follow through on the things that usually work for them.  When anger, anxiety, and panic get too overwhelming, the part of our brain that problem solves and makes well informed choices doesn’t get as many of the resources it needs, making it harder to think clearly.  Instead, the emotional parts of the brain get those resources and we might start to feel physical signs of these emotions like, sweating, shallow breathing, crying, and nausea among other things.  We might even feel like we’re having a heart attack or dying.  When this happens, we sometimes get desperate to escape these unpleasant feelings and make choices that down the line can be dangerous or make our situation worse.  This is when we might self-harm, fight with someone we love, break things, or become aggressive.  When this happens, we have to find ways to trick our brain in to realizing that we’re safe so the intensity of these emotions decreases enough for us to think clearly and cope effectively.   The TIPP skill does this, and the best part about it is that it requires very little thinking and works super quickly. 

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What is DBT?

What is DBT?

DBT stands for Dialectical Behavior Therapy.  Dialectic means two opposites can both be true.  For example, if a loved one did something that was hurtful to you, you can be angry with them, maybe even hate them, and still love them.  Balancing two things helps keep us from experiencing emotions in extremes.  Sometimes this is as simple as changing “OR” into “AND”. Instead of being happy OR sad, we can be happy AND sad.  It’s hard to stay calm when you’re thinking in extremes, and dialectics allow us to stay balanced by noticing two truths at once. 

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