How Do We Identify Our Needs?

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How Do We Identify Our Needs?

So often when we are feeling frustrated in life with our jobs, families or other relationships, we end up feeling the same thing over and over again but aren’t able to identify in those moments what is familiar. Because of this, we can tend to either ignore those feelings and begin to have a pattern of dealing with that person or circumstance that often leads to feeling those same feelings over and over again without any real resolution or positive outcome. I often talk to clients that knowing how to express and communicate the change we need to feel or see is the first step towards moving into a new pattern of communication.

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The Gottman Method Of Couples Therapy : Why This Method Shines

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The Gottman Method Of Couples Therapy : Why This Method Shines

Ever watched those romantic comedies where characters seem to dance into the moonlight with their partners? Let’s face it, at times our relationship feels more like a wrestling match than a dance. Couples counseling can help through those challenges. There are many different approaches to couples counseling, but one that stands out is the Gottman method. Let’s explore why it’s a good choice for couples, who want to not only get by but to make their relationship the best it can be.

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Couples Counseling 101

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Couples Counseling 101

When thinking about marriages and long-term relationships, they can feel overwhelming, especially with an estimated 50% of marriages leading to divorce. Knowing that marriage and relationship has its challenges, it is important to know where to turn for help when things get challenging. Couples counseling can be a great option to strengthen your relationship with your partner.

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Codependency: What Is It?

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Codependency: What Is It?

The original concept of “codependent” came from wives of the alcoholics who started Alcoholic Anonymous, Bill Wilson and “Dr. Bob.”  The men would have AA meetings in people’s houses and the wives would sit in the kitchen and talk over coffee and dessert.  As they exchanged stories about their experiences, they realized they all had done similar things in an effort to protect their husband from consequences of their alcoholism.

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7 Ways to Resolve Conflict by "Fighting Fair"

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7 Ways to Resolve Conflict by "Fighting Fair"

Who out there avoids conflict as if it were a death sentence? I would estimate that at least half of my clients struggle with assertiveness – a way of communicating and advocating for themselves in a respectful and honest way. It seems they see no difference between assertiveness and aggression. Aggressive communication is not respectful, often involving making demands of others without listening to them and threatening or attacking the other person.

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